Ismail Kamdar

Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.
Ismail Kamdar is the Founder of Islamic Self Help and Izzah Academy, author of over a dozen books, and the operations manager of Yaqeen Institute.

Now Available: The First Islamic Self Help Fiction eBook

Now Available: The First Islamic Self Help Fiction eBook

Alhamdulillah, I am really excited to announce the launch of my first Islamic Self Help fiction eBook: Ahmad Climbs A Mountain. I spent the bulk of 2017 writing, editing, and improving this one book.

The idea for this book actually came to my mind on a Jumah morning. I immediately sat down, and started mind Islamic Self Help Fiction mapping it. So I am really excited to launch it on a Jumah morning six months later.

This book is a new style of writing for me, and so far, the reviews I received from test-readers have been really positive. I’m really excited to know what you think of the book too.

I decided to frame my entire self help system for achieving goals as a fictional story. This new method led to the formation of this exciting tale of a young boy climbing a mountain.

Through the story, you will learn everything you need to know about setting and achieving goals.

 

Where is it available?

The eBook is currently available at Amazon Kindle, Gumroad and Payhip. You can even get a preview of the first chapter for free at Amazon. The links are listed below:

Gumroad – https://gum.co/Ahmad
Payhip – https://payhip.com/b/PmQ5
Kindle – https://www.amazon.com/Ahmad-Climbs-Mountain-Parable-Achieving-ebook/dp/B07542M4M4

FAQs about the book:

Q: Isn’t fiction Haraam?
A: No, Fiction is not Haraam. It is the content that matters. A beneficial fiction story is Halal, and is considered an extended metaphor/example/parable. Fiction is not considered lying as there is no attempt to deceive anybody.

Q: Is the book for adults or children?
A: The book is written primarily for young adults who are working towards their life goals. However, people of all ages can enjoy and benefit from it.

Q: Is the book available in paperback?
A: Not at the moment. It is only available as an eBook for the foreseeable future.

Other eBooks by Islamic Self Help

Getting The Barakah – Islamic Self Help’s premiere eBook. Getting The Barakah focuses on Time Management tips and techniques.  All of which are grounded in Islamic principles. Furthermore, It is currently our fastest selling eBook. Get your copy here.

Best Of Creation – An Islamic Guide to Self Confidence. This exclusive eBook will show you how to build your confidence. It will also teach you to overcome your fears, redefine your mistakes, and step out of your comfort zone.

Every principle in this book is grounded in Islamic teachings. This eBook will help you grow in both confidence and spirituality. Click here to purchase.

Discover Your Hidden Gems – Islamic Self Help’s first workbook. This workbook contains six activities designed to help you discover your strengths, weaknesses and to set your goals accordingly. Get started today!

Homeschooling 101 – Learn about this alternative method of education with our exclusive eBook. In this eBook, discover ten reasons to consider homeschooling. We have included a step-by-step guide to getting started. Zohra Sarwari provides an exclusive foreword to the eBook. Buy it by clicking here.

Themes of the Quran – This unique eBook summarizes the core theme of each Surah of the Quran. This eBook is divided into 30 chapters, each summarizing the themes covered in one Juz of the Quran. Get your copy today and gain a deeper understanding of the Quran.

Visit our ebook store for our full range of Islamic books!

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Books

25 Beautiful Hadiths about Good Manners

Good Manners Hadiths

25 Beautiful Hadiths about Good Manners

Good Manners (Adab) are a fundamental part of our faith. Outside of Aqeedah and Fiqh, Adab is one of the most important parts of Islam to study.

In fact, entire books of Hadith revolve around manners and character. Two of the best of examples of this are Riyadh As-Saliheen by Imam Nawawi, and Adab Al-Mufrad by Imam Al-Bukhari.

As a reminder to myself and yourself, here are 25 of my favorite hadiths related to good manners.

Hadiths related to the virtues of good manners

  1. The messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Nothing is heavier on the Scale of Deeds than one’s good manners.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
  2. “The most beloved of Allah’s slaves to Allah are those with the best manners.” (At-Tabrani)
  3. “A person may attain through good manners the same level of virtue as those who spend their nights in prayer.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
  4. ‘The best among you in Islam are those with the best manners,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. When asked about the definition of righteousness, the Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “Righteousness is good character,” (Saheeh Bukhari)

Hadiths about the most important manners

  1. “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good things or remain silent.” (Saheeh Muslim)
  2. “Verily, from the perfection of Islam is that a person leaves what does not concern him.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
  3. “Do not lose your temper.” *repeated three times as advice (Saheeh Bukhari)
  4. “None of you will have faith until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. “He who does not show mercy to our young ones or show respect for our elders is not one of us.” (Saheeh Bukhari)

Hadiths about manners towards parents

  1. Abdullah Ibn Masood (RA) said, “I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) which action Allah loves best. He replied, ‘Prayer at its proper time.’ I asked, ‘Then what?’  He said, ‘Then kindness to parents.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  2. Abu Hurayra (RA) said, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked, ‘Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ ‘Your mother,’ he replied. He was asked, ‘Then whom?’ He replied, ‘Your father.'”
    (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  3. “Allah curses anyone who curses his parents.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  4. “From among the major sins is for a man to despise his own father,” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  5. A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) wanting to join him on Jihad. He has two elderly parents. The Prophet (peace be upon him) told him, “Your striving is in serving them,” (Adab Al-Mufrad)

Hadiths about mercy

  1. “Allah will not show mercy to a person who does not show mercy to other people.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  2. “Show mercy and you will be shown mercy. Forgive and Allah will forgive you.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)
  3. “Those who are merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One in the heavens will have mercy upon you.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhi)
  4. “Spread peace between yourselves. By the one in whose hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you are merciful.” (Al-Mustadrak)
  5. Anas Ibn Malik (RA) said, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) was merciful and no one would come to him in need except that he would promise to help him or he would give him something.” (Adab Al-Mufrad)

General hadiths about good manners

  1. “Modesty only causes good,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  2. “A good word is charity,” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  3. “The believer does not curse/use vulgar language,” (Tirmidhi)
  4. “Whoever desires more wealth and a long life should maintain family ties.” (Saheeh Bukhari)
  5. “Do not envy one another, and do not inflate prices for one another, and do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, and do not undercut one another in trade, but be slaves of Allah and brothers. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he does not oppress him, nor does he fail him, nor does he lie to him, nor does he hold him in contempt. Taqwa (piety) is right here [and he pointed to his chest three times]. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim is inviolable for another Muslim: his blood, his property, and his honour.” (Saheeh Muslim)

Final Reminder

These hadiths should serve as a strong reminder to each of us to treat each other well. Whether it be our parents, spouse, children, neighbors, or even strangers, we should treat each person with the best of manners.

Good character is one of the paths to Paradise in Islam. This does not mean that a person who has good character will entire Paradise is they ignore the obligations of Islam. Rather, someone who fulfills their obligations to Allah and treats people well is on the path to Paradise.

May Allah make use from among the people of manners and Paradise.

 

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Inner Peace

Gratitude in the age of complaining

Gratitude

Gratitude: A Fundamental of Faith

Gratitude is from the fundamental qualities of a Muslim. In fact, it directly impacts our relationship with our Creator. The following story illustrates this beautifully:

When Ayesha Bint Abi Bakr (RA) saw the Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) praying a long night prayer in tears, she asked him a very practical question. She asked, “Oh Prophet of Allah, why do you go through so much effort (in worship) even though Allah has forgiven for you your earlier and later sins?”

His reply was extremely brief and profound, “Should I not be a thankful servant?” (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith: 1130 and Sahih Muslim, Hadith: 2819)

The Prophet’s (peace be upon him) relationship with Allah was founded on gratitude. As he is our role model, we too should aim to have a relationship with Allah based upon gratitude.

The results of such gratitude is clear in Allah’s promise:

And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you are ungrateful, indeed, My punishment is severe.(Surah Ibraheem 14:7)

The promise of Allah is simple and clear: be grateful, you will receive more bounties. Be ungrateful, and your sources of misery will increase

Positive Thinking And Self Help

In Self Help material, no matter how secular the author, there is a strong emphasis on gratitude. Many people around the world have experienced increase in blessings when they live a life of gratitude. Some secular sources list as many as 30 benefits of gratitude.

When modern research and Islamic principles agree on the importance of being grateful and thankful, why then is ingratitude so common today?

The Age of Complaining

Complaining and taking offence have become international hobbies. There doesn’t seem to be a single day in which Muslims are not upset, offended by, angry or ranting about something.

We complain about everything: politics, scholars, lack of scholars, people being too conservative, people being too liberal, someone using words we didn’t like, and of course Islamaphobia.  The list goes on and on.

While many of these are legit grievances, ask yourself how much has your complaining actually helped the ummah?

At the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him), did he not have as many things to complain about? He was exiled from his city, slandered by his people, lost many of those closest to him, and injured by his enemies. Yet his response to all this was “Should I not be a thankful servant?”

Despite all the negative events occurring around him, he always found something to be grateful for, so should we.

The Danger Of The Complaining Era

The problem with our current era is that all this complaining creates a negative vibe. We end up full of rage, malcontent, bitterness, and sadness. None of these emotions are productive, and as a result, we spend so much time complaining, but so little time actually doing anything constructive.

This needs to change, and the change has to start with us. We need to let go of our habit of complaining, and replace it with a habit of thanking Allah.

How to make the shift

The first step to change this is to become more selective in our social media. The way most of us configure our social media accounts, we are bombarded with negative news and comments all day long. This makes it almost impossible to experience any positive emotion at any point in the day.

Instead, create some filters. Let your main news feeds reflect only positive accounts, keep more depressing accounts aside for only when you need to read them. And PLEASE avoid the comment section at all costs!

In a previous article, I listed 25 ways to express gratitude daily. I highly recommend reading that article and applying its teachings to your life. The list is short, simple and extremely practical.

Personally, I start each day by listing three things to be grateful for, and then thanking Allah for these blessings, and I try to make a unique list every single day. This helps me start my day on a positive note, and avoid negative emotions.

If you make the shift from complaining to expressing gratitude, you will experience inner peace, positive emotions, increased productivity, and an increase in blessings. So what are you waiting for, make the change today!

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Positive Thinking

Coming Soon: Islamic Self Help’s First Fiction Book

Coming Soon…

Islamic Self Help presents Shaykh Ismail Kamdar’s first fiction book: ‘Ahmad Climbs A Mountain: A Parable About Goal-Setting’. (coming soon…launching end of August 2017)

Coming Soon

Ahmad Climbs A Mountain will tell the tale of a young boy from a village in a valley with a high goal. He dreams of climbing a mountain, escaping the valley, and exploring the world on the other side.

What To Expect

This story will focus on Ahmad’s journey and the challenges he faces along the way. Climbing the mountain will not be easy, Ahmad will have to face many perils. He will have to deal with family and friends trying to discourage him. He will have to deal with internal struggles like self-doubt, fear, and lack of confidence. And he will have to overcome physical challenges too.

Ahmad’s journey will not be easy. Through it, he will learn, grow, and evolve into a better man. Will he accomplish his goal and find what he is looking for? Read the full book to find out!

A Parable

The story is written as a Self Help Parable. Through it, the author hopes to get readers thinking about their own goals and their own challenges. By looking at how Ahmad deals with each challenge along his climb, readers can learn valuable lessons on how to deal with their own obstacles and achieve their own dreams.

Release Date…coming soon

The eBook will be available before the end of August. We will be announcing the launch date very soon. The eBook will be available at Islamic Self Help, Payhip, Gumroad, and Amazon Kindle.

A paperback version of the book is currently in development, but may take much longer to produce. Most likely, it will be released in early 2018, if we find a good publishing partner in time.

Ahmad Climbs a Mountain will be a groundbreaking release for Islamic Self Help, expanding our range of books from self help tips and workbooks into a new realm: Self Help Fiction. Stay tuned for more details coming soon…

Check out Islamic Self Help’s full range of eBooks here.

 

 

Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Books

Three Hadiths About Time Management

Three Hadiths About Time Management

This is an extract from my eBook, Getting The Barakah: An Islamic Guide To Time Management. You can purchase the full eBook here. These three hadiths are explained in chapter two of the eBook.

To begin, we need to look at a commonly misunderstood term, Rizq. Rizq refers to everything that Allah has provides us with, we can translate it as resources. Rizq is not restricted to wealth and material resources as many people think. The resources that Allah has provided us with are many. They include wealth, health, youth, family, friends, safety, knowledge, intellectual capabilities and, what concerns us most in this book, time.

First Reflection:

In order to truly appreciate the importance of time management, we must understand and acknowledge that time a part of our Rizq. It is a resource that Allah has provide to us, just like our health and wealth. There are two special qualities about time that separate it from the other types of Rizq we receive:

  1. Every human is provided with the exact same amount of time in a day.
  2. Time is the only resource that is not renewable. Once it is used, it is gone forever.

Each of the above points has a direct repercussion on the way we think about time.

Second Reflection

The following three points should make us realize how precious a resource our time really is: Time is similar to other resources in that only Allah knows how much time each person has in this world.

Some live for a short time and accomplish great things, because they value that time. Some live for a long time without accomplishing anything, because they did not realize the value of time until it was too late.

  1. As every human has the exact same amount of time per day as another, there is nothing we can do to increase our time, but we can have an edge over others is how we manage our time.
  2. As time is not renewable, it would be foolish to waste it or kill it. Why waste a precious resource that you are never going to get back?
  3. As we don’t know how much time we really have on this earth, can we really afford to waste time now and wait until later in life to do things that are important to us?

With this in mind, it becomes clear that time is a precious resource from Allah that must be used for good. We can also understand that wasting time is like wasting money. Rather it is worse!

Because you can always make up for lost money, but you can never make up for time that has been lost.

The First Hadith:

The Hadiths[1] related to time become very clear when we analyse them from this perspective. Reflect on the following Hadiths in light of the above:

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لِرَجُلٍ وَهُوَ يَعِظُهُ اغْتَنِمْ خَمْسًا قَبْلَ خَمْسٍ شَبَابَكَ قَبْلَ هَرَمِكَ وَصِحَّتَكَ قَبْلَ سَقَمِكَ وَغِنَاكَ قَبْلَ فَقْرِكَ وَفَرَاغَكَ قَبْلَ شُغُلِكَ وَحَيَاتَكَ قَبْلَ مَوْتِكَ

“Take benefit of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied, and your life before your death” (Narrated by Ibn Abbas and reported by Al Hakim)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. Everything mentioned in this Hadith is a type of Rizq: youth, health, wealth, free time and our life as a whole
  2. Therefore we must be very careful in how we utilize each of the above
  3. Notice that the Hadith mentions free time and not time as a whole. Due to the necessities of life, there are times in the day that we have to do certain things (Work, Salah) and we can’t use that time for anything else, so it’s really how we utilize our free time that matters.

The Second Hadith

عَنْ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ نِعْمَتَانِ مَغْبُونٌ فِيهِمَا كَثِيرٌ مِنْ النَّاسِ الصِّحَّةُ وَالْفَرَاغُ

“There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good.” (Bukhari 8/421)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. This Hadith focuses on two resources: health and free time.
  2. Both of these are necessary resources for doing good deeds. It is difficult to do good deeds without good health or enough time to do it properly.
  3. These are two things that most people take for granted. For some reason, we don’t appreciate these blessings from Allah until they are taken away from us.
  4. The best way to show appreciation to Allah for a blessing is to use it as a tool for good. Therefore, our free time must be utilized and we cannot allow it to be wasted.

The Third Hadith

قَالَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يُؤْذِينِي ابْنُ آدَمَ يَسُبُّ الدَّهْرَ وَأَنَا الدَّهْرُ بِيَدِي الْأَمْرُ أُقَلِّبُ اللَّيْلَ وَالنَّهَارَ

“Allah said, ‘The son of Adam wrongs me for he curses Ad-Dahr (Time); though I am Ad-Dahr (Time). In My Hands are all things, and I cause the revolution of day and night” (Al-Bukhari)

Author’s Reflection:

  1. In this Hadith Al-Qudsi[2], Allah says that He is Time. The scholars clarify this to mean that time is controlled and provided to us by Allah. It is a blessing from Allah and so cursing it is like cursing Allah.
  2. When we feel that time is slipping away and that we don’t have enough time to accomplish what we want in life, don’t curse time because you were given the same amount of time in a day as everybody else. Rather, take that moment to analyse how you spent your time and what you can do differently.

Conclusion

This creates a mind-set that is focused on keeping track of time and utilizing it to the best of our abilities. If we are only going to be in this world for a limited period of time, and during that time we need to balance our duties towards our Creator, our families, our society and ourselves then the only way to get that done is with strict time management.The above Hadiths all indicate the same thing, that the true believer understands the importance of time and refuses to waste it. It is a precious asset that is deteriorating every second, and so an hour wasted is an hour that we can never get back.

This is what I hope to accomplish in this book, to assist you to gain the necessary tools and habits that can help you get the best out of your day. These tools can be used in our work life, study life, family life, leisure time and spiritual life. In fact, when used properly, these tools help us to balance between all of these parts of our lives and that is the correct way for a believer to live, a balanced life, never wasting any time, always working towards a higher goal.

[1] Hadith: A narration containing information about what the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said or did

[2] Hadith Al-Qudsi: A Hadith narration quoting Allah directly. It is considered a separate category from a Hadith quoting the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

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Posted by Ismail Kamdar in Time Management